So it's finally over with my family. Should anyone wonder if they have changed during the four years since the last time we talked the answer is no. It is as caustic as it it ever was. But here is the difference... I am healthier than I have ever been before. With a good deal of prayer and thought, I have ended things with them once and for all. Now of course they may not feel that the matter is closed, but now I do. I sent them the email below via an account I will never use again. A quiet peace falls over us. We have desired this before, but the time and the words were never right. Should anyone who reads this feel sorry for me, know that this is a very good thing. February 25, 2008 was my personal Independence Day. I now hope to live a wonderful life, happily ever after, till the end of my days.
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Subject: I am sorry
Dear Family,
When I contacted you in January, I promise it was in a spirit of love, not contention. I was following the promptings of the Spirit in sending that first email. I wonder now if it was purely genealogy related. Perhaps some ancestor really wants their work done. But sadly, this has spiraled out of control. Everyone is hurt, everyone is angry. We’re all just hurting each other. You all sound so unhappy. I’m sorry I’ve done this to you. I am sorry that I have caused you all such pain. It seems that you are all in agreement about our family’s history; it would seem that I am the one causing the problem here. I don’t want to cause anymore hurt or pain or problems.
With much prayer, the only equitable resolution I can see is for our contact to end permanently. I wish to free you from all of this. You never need to think on this again. You don’t need to search for me anymore. I release you. Don’t worry about me anymore. I am doing so well. My life is so happy. I wish for each of your lives to be happy. Dad I will always have a place in my heart for you. Mom thank you for all you taught me, it has helped me more than you could ever know. Nathan, thank you for sharing your passions with me and for taking me to the singles ward. I hope you will all be quite happy.
Perhaps this act of freeing you can give you all a new lease on life. This letter is where this all ends. This is the closure we never had. Once again, I am so truly sorry. I hope never to cause you pain again. This is my farewell to you. I do not wish to disturb or harm you in any way ever again. Please let us part in a spirit not of hate but peace. I wish peace and healing for all of us. This is my goodbye until the next life. It is my hope that this will all be better there. Goodbye, you are free now.
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Subject: I am sorry
Dear Family,
When I contacted you in January, I promise it was in a spirit of love, not contention. I was following the promptings of the Spirit in sending that first email. I wonder now if it was purely genealogy related. Perhaps some ancestor really wants their work done. But sadly, this has spiraled out of control. Everyone is hurt, everyone is angry. We’re all just hurting each other. You all sound so unhappy. I’m sorry I’ve done this to you. I am sorry that I have caused you all such pain. It seems that you are all in agreement about our family’s history; it would seem that I am the one causing the problem here. I don’t want to cause anymore hurt or pain or problems.
With much prayer, the only equitable resolution I can see is for our contact to end permanently. I wish to free you from all of this. You never need to think on this again. You don’t need to search for me anymore. I release you. Don’t worry about me anymore. I am doing so well. My life is so happy. I wish for each of your lives to be happy. Dad I will always have a place in my heart for you. Mom thank you for all you taught me, it has helped me more than you could ever know. Nathan, thank you for sharing your passions with me and for taking me to the singles ward. I hope you will all be quite happy.
Perhaps this act of freeing you can give you all a new lease on life. This letter is where this all ends. This is the closure we never had. Once again, I am so truly sorry. I hope never to cause you pain again. This is my farewell to you. I do not wish to disturb or harm you in any way ever again. Please let us part in a spirit not of hate but peace. I wish peace and healing for all of us. This is my goodbye until the next life. It is my hope that this will all be better there. Goodbye, you are free now.
2 comments:
Wow, I just want to cry. I don't know the whole story, but I do know what you have gone through must have been terribly painful. I am glad you feel you have overcome such a battle in life and that things from here on out just get better and brighter every day.
I'm glad you are finally able to feel closure about this.
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